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Forgiveness

Posted: 02/26/2008 in Quotes, Thoughts

Forgiveness is one of the qualities we find hardest to develop.Most of the time we are unable to be forgive because we feel our hurt, our resentment, our anger, our hatred is justified. Justified by what? by the other person’s actions.The trouble is this – the action “was” the “other’s” and the negative feelings “is” “mine” – its my mind which is tied up in the threads of hurt, my heart which still smolder with the embers of a fire that should have been put out a long time ago.Forgiveness is about letting go.I recognize there is a poison in my heart. It needs to be purged. There is nothing I can do about the past. What I can do is make my present more fragrant so my future becomes more meaningful. And the smokescreen that is erected by my firm holding on to the past is never going to allow my present to manifest its fragrance. A firm and gentle goodbye to the past is what is in my own self-interest.Forgiveness is about understanding. Whatever any one does is because that particular individual at that point in time in those peculiar set of circumstances could have done that and that only. This is because whether we like it or not, there is a perfect Order that is set in place here, and everything that happens is ever in accordance with that Order alone. The other person’s actions are no doubt heinous. But perhaps if i had the upbringing that he or she did, the temperament, the value structure, the social environment etc etc then my own actions may have been exactly the same.Forgiveness is about acceptance. The past is a ghost. It has no existence save our remnances. There is nothing about it i can change. What i can do is wish it goodbye and move on. The present is ever here, every moment, waiting for me. To embrace it, i need to accept the death of the past. There is ever a resistance towards forgetting the past. This resistance stifles my growth as an individual. Resisting this resistance only creates more resentment. Acceptance is the only antidote to the poison of resistance and forgiveness is the only key to acceptance.Forgiveness is about learning. We often mistake that by forgiving we will not learn from our mistakes. The truth is to the exact contrary. Forgiveness helps us be objective about the past. It removes our negatively distorted view about things. We see why things turned out the way they did and what we can do to prevent this from happening in the future to the extent possible. We have to learn to forgive and forgive to learn.Forgiveness is about being strong. In the words of Mahatma Gandhi “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”It takes courage to forgive. It takes a mature outlook that is not afraid to let go. Deep inside we are afraid to let go of the unpleasant – there is fear of this loss. Overcoming this fear takes courage and strength.From a vedantic perspective, the person who has caused you hurt has in a way done you a favor. He has helped you examine your own capacity to hate, to be angry, he has helped test your mettle, your capacity to act and not react, he has helped measure the depths of your forgiving spirit. After all only pain can help you guage your capacity to withstand pain. Moreover pain and hurt much more than pleasure is what motivates man to enquire, to reflect, to seek.On a final note, forgiveness applies most importantly to one-self. Self-forgiveness is an extremely important quality . For the same negatives that we associate with hurt are exactly applicable to guilt.

(found this post on this site, thought it was AMAZING)

Quote on Trials

Posted: 01/30/2008 in Quotes, Thoughts
I found this quote some time ago in a study guide and I am extremely greatful for it. If I remember correctly it was when I was in one of my “life isn’t fair” modes. Not the first or last time I will go through one of those. I am sure we have all thought that one time or another. Needless to say this quote always comes to my mind when I hear someone mention a trial, frustration, or a hardship that no person should go through. It doesn’t take the pain of it all away, but at least for me it helps it all just make a little more sense. If that is possible. There are definitely challenges in life that I look at and say, I am so grateful for my challenges because that is something I don’t feel I could handle. Hence the reason why we are each given our own person trials because we can handle them. They may not make sense at the time that we are in the middle of them or as the outsider we may be thinking that it isn’t fair that someone has to experience a certain pain but we are never left hanging as long as we ask for the help and the spiritual eyes to see and learn why we are going through a specific experience. Also one correction in this quote is how it says , free agency. I don’t think there is anything free about agency. There is always an effect to every cause. We are given agency to do whatever we choose to do with it. We could sit around in this life and say ” Oh I was given this trial or this happened cause of someone elses choices” In all reality we would drive ourselves crazy. All that really matters is what we do with what we are handed. Not how it comes to us. Coming from a CONTROLING person that wants to be in charge of everything, well most everything, it is really hard to COMPLETELY humble myself and hand something over to Heavenly Father and blindly trust Him even though every time I do it turns out better then if I were in charge. So frustrating. He does know if better than we know ourselves. He does have the big picture. Being a mortal is hard! It is sad though that ,usually, it is at the expense of someone elses pain that makes us stop and think twice or appreciate what we have right under our nose.

Now, we find many people critical when a righteous person is killed, a young father or mother is taken from a family, or when violent deaths occur. Some become bitter when oft-repeated prayers seem unaswered. Some lose faith and turn sour when solemn administrations by holy men seem to be ignored and no restoration seems to come from repeated prayer circles. But if all the sick were healed, if all the righteous were protected and the wicked destroyed, the whole program of the Father would be annulled and the basic principle of the Gospel, free agency, would be ended. If pain and sorrow and total punishment immediately followed the doing of evil, no soul would repeat a misdeed. If joy and peace and rewards were instantaneously given the doer of good, there could be no evil – all would do good and not because of the rightness of doing good. There would be no test of strength, no development of character, no growth of powers, no free agency, no Satanic controls. Should all prayers be immediately answered according to our selfish desires and our limited understanding, then there would be little or no suffering, sorrow, disappointment, or even death; and if these were not, there would also be an absence of joy, success, resurection, eternal life, and godhood.President Spencer W. Kimball

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Great Quote

Posted: 10/10/2007 in Quotes, Thoughts
This Quote is SO TRUE! I remember years ago when one of apostles spoke about how people don’t make us made but that we let them make us mad. I have learned over the years that this is actually true. It is hard to swallow but how true it is. Here another apostle is saying it!!!
Daily Gems
Being Offended Is a Choice We Make
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"Certainly clumsy, embarrassing, unprincipled, and
mean spirited things do occur in our interactions with
other people that would allow us to take offense.
However, it ultimately is impossible for another
person
to offend you or to offend me. Indeed, believing that
another person offended us is fundamentally false. To
be offended is a choice we make; it is not a condition
inflicted or imposed upon us by someone or something
else."

Topics: choices, attitude, relationships, offense

(David A. Bednar, "And Nothing Shall Offend Them,"
Ensign, Nov. 2006,
90)

Just a Thought

Posted: 06/18/2007 in Quotes, Thoughts

Today in Sunday School we referred to Matthew chapter 25 which has the Parable of the Ten Virgins and the Talents, etc. It was a really good lesson but the one thing that really stuck with me was a quote that the Teacher read.

” Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask oursleves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a Child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” Nelson Mandela

I think that is the most powerful statement that we can all take into consideration and hopefully start to practice. It is total truth.